Those who’ve been around these parts know that, when I speak of Vampires, I’m talking about the voices/people that suck the good stuff out of us. Oh sure, Vampires are all cool and sexy now (thanks Stephanie Meyer & HBO!), but in my work, they’re Cold-Blooded Dream Killers.
Believe it or not, I have to retract my total Vampire hatred. I used to see them as The Enemy Who Must Be Defeated, Quickly. They tell us we have no talent, we don’t have a chance, we’re less than, we’re just like everyone else, we’ll die an old bag lady, yada yada yada. And while this totally sucks, I’ve come to realize:
They’re doing us a favor.
The Vampires are pointing us to exactly what’s in our way. Sure, they can say it way nicer than they do, but despite the tone/attitude/obnoxiousness, the guidepost is still there.
Think you’ll die an old bag lady? Well, map out a solid Plan B and you’ll be golden. Or put yourself in that scenario and realize it might actually be “kinda awesome.”
Think you have no talent? Get a Win Book together and prove that Vampire wrong.
Think you don’t have a chance to make a living doing what you love? Find some people who are doing it, and use ’em as inspiration.
Think you don’t have anything unique to offer? Ask your friends and family why they keep you around/value you/find you inspiring; articulate what you got complimented on; give yourself credit for the things that come easy to you but everyone else can’t do (I promise your head won’t swell if you dwell on the positive).
So, the next time that Vampire comes a-whispering, don’t send him away so quickly. Invite him in, give him a glass of red wine (close enough to what he’s used to drinking, right?), and listen to what he has to say. It’s only then, once you’ve heard him through, that you can take action on what he’s telling you, and you can slay him once and for all.