I don’t want to work that much.
Not that-that much, anyway.
Guess what? Working too many hours makes me tired, cranky, and disconnected, which consequently makes me not a great business coach! I feel it takes me away from my family and makes it harder to put emphasis or focus on my mental and physical health. And, ya know what? — I’ll just say it — I like watching TV at night. Especially when I only have a teeny, tiny window between when my sweet little girl goes to bed and when I want to go to bed!
Some people thrive in a heavy workload situation. Those people are not me.
I am a firm believer and advocate of practicing a work-life balance. In my case, that means stopping at a 40hr/week workload, and a lot of the time I only work 30hrs/week (For real!)
Work-life balance for me also means putting space between my inbox and my family time, (which I admittedly don’t always nail, but I’m trying)! It means giving my emotional state attention and time so I can grow and change on a personal level, which ultimately gives me more capacity to grow and change my business, too.
And yes, it also definitely means watching TV (cough-Judge Judy-cough) sometimes.
I have another secret that is also not really a secret: I make a six-figure salary and my numbers are only growing. I’ve already made 35% more this year than I did by this time in 2017. My business team is getting larger, too. I just filled new positions — yes, plural — and I have the testimonials and statistics to back it all up.
I’m the anti-hustler with a successful business – and you can be, too.
In the many, many years I’ve thoughtfully, carefully, intentionally nurtured my coaching career into the shiny business it is today, I’ve learned a lot about how to work smart. This means I’ve been able to find ways to foster big, epic pay offs without the extra, insomnia-inducing effort. Don’t worry, I’m going to let you in on the secret to that, too.
If you are the type of human who feels best rocking 12+ hours a day at the office and don’t have a need or want for things like space, time, inspiration, and creativity to feed your soul (and likewise, career) more power to you.
For other anti-hustlers like me, scroll on!
Secret #1: It’s not about burning the candle at both ends.
If you’re hitting max-effort-capacity every day in every way, your burn out will be that much more intense and last that much longer. In some cases, it will show up much sooner, too, halting your productivity and blocking any forward movement.
Society definitely makes us believe that if we “hustle harder” our rewards will be bigger and better than everyone else’s. This is a very important disclaimer: To be your own business owner, you do have to work hard. BUT, if you’re using up all of your energy, effort and resources at all times, you’re going to run out of things like stamina, motivation, and tools quicker than you or your business can replenish them. This will also inhibit you from delivering your best to your clients and customers! Ah!
Pick your favorite candle and burn just the one end. Make a gorgeous, glowing flame. Now, let the other end of the candle do what it was meant to — support the wick. (<– Ooh, I love a good metaphor.)
Secret #2: You can take your time.
When I had my day job ten years ago, I left my home at 8:10 a.m. and came back at 6:50 p.m. (Do you think something about that stuck with me or what?)
During that time, I looked for the holes in my schedule that I could fill with useful energy towards starting my own business. I picked a few pockets a week over lunch hours, evenings, and weekends to fill with coaching classes or taking on clients. In total, it maybe added up to 10ish hours a week on top of my regular 9-6pm gig. If you’re following along at home, that’s a total of 60 work hours per work.
Not great if you’re the anti-hustler Queen like me, but I could do it.
I took on as much as I could without forgetting how to feed myself and be normal in social situations, and nothing more. Over the course of two years and seven months (not that I was counting), with patience and time, I achieved everything I needed (getting my coaching certificate, working with real clients, saving money…) to say “See ya later, day job! I won’t let the door kick me on my way out!” And, oh yeah, I even got married during that time, too. Life kept moving me forward, and I was able to ride the wave thanks to the pace I set for myself.
Secret #3: When you’re the boss, you make the processes. You’re in charge.
This is one of my most favorite business coaching not-so-secret secrets: When you work for yourself, you set the rules.
This means: You can structure your workflow and processes in a way that makes sense for your brain, thus creating efficiency. You can work with clients in an industry that jive with your soul, thus creating inspiration. You can set your rates based on your personal evaluation of the time and resources it takes you to provide your product or service, thus creating motivation.
Yes. It is that simple.
As you craft your own business and run into obstacles, you have the luxury to stop and look at that obstacle and say, “Hey, are you worth the climb or is there another route I can take that is smoother and easier for me, personally, as in… what do I want?” Great news!: whatever the answer is, you get to do it! You’re in charge! You can set your business up to run however you want it to run, which should mean less BS.
I know, this all feels obvious now that you’re here. Right? I have so many more business coach secrets where this came from, and I wanna share them all with you. If you’re having a facepalm moment reading this and are hungry to make the change, I know someone who can help. (It’s me.)
Tonight, Tuesday, September 11th at 7pm, I’m hosting a free webinar called “I Want A Business – But What Is It?” I’m going to lay out so many other goodies that will help you find clarity and focus on your next business-discovery steps and give you the confidence to make it happen even with a day job, family responsibilities, sleep and a social life. There will be time for Q&A, too!
I really hope to see you there, and that’s no secret.