March 19th is my 7th Entrepreneuriversary.
I have to let that sink in, honestly.
7 years of full-time coaching.
7 years of claiming The When I Grow Up Coach as my alter-ego.
7 years of highs, of lows, of risks, of rewards, of trying, of learning, of “failing”, of growing.
7 years of believing in myself and what I’m capable of, despite a recession, infertility and two cancer diagnosis.
Last year, I wrote a letter to 2010 me, (concisely) sharing all that happened and all I learned.
This year, I wondered: What would the me from 2024 have to say? It’s a really scary prospect for someone whose least favorite question is “Where do you see yourself in 5 years?”.
So, at risk of revealing my Big Scary Dreams, here’s what I think she’d say:
Dear 2017 Michelle,
Hi, cutie! I see you there. You’re so adorable, still adjusting to living in a home instead of an apartment, living in a suburb instead of a city, driving a car instead of taking the subway. You’re dealing with toddler troubles like accidents and tantrums and taking hours to go to sleep.
I love how you’re so in love now – with your family, with your business, with your lifestyle. I love how you’re taking gratitude, mindfulness, and choosing-to-be-calm seriously, both in your values and your actions. You’re starting to Be more than Do, and that’ll bring you to such good places.
But you know who you are now? Let’s look into my crystal ball…(we have those now, even though I don’t need it for this!)
In 2024, you’re Mom to a 10 year old. She’s exactly who you think she’ll be – so smart and capable, so strong and independent, so funny and creative. She’s still stubborn and only asks for help when she really needs it, but you wouldn’t have it any other way. An athlete one minute, a performer the next, a scientist, too…she’s still trying on so many hats, and it’s a joy to watch. Multi-passionate much? 😉
In 2024, you’ve been married for 16 years. How is that possible?! But yes, it’s true, and you can breathe a sigh of relief. You and Luke are still a team, and a strong, respectful one at that. He remains your rock, your love, your best friend, your partner.
In 2024, your family is still living in your house, but better. Your living room and kitchen have been decorated in your style, the heating and cooling units have been updated, and even your attic has been finished. It’s exactly how you envisioned, and is the perfect little house for your wonderful little family.
By 2024, you’ve taken a long spiritual journey that has allowed you to consistently nourish your mind, body and soul. Meditation, journaling, yoga flows and consuming 8 glasses of water happen daily. You do the cardio that feels best for your body for at least 3 hours a week. You eat what feels good in your body, and although it’s not strictly vegan, it works for you. You continue to choose Calm, to Be rather than Do, to stop chasing busyness. It’s been transformative.
By 2024, you’ve been The When I Grow Up Coach for 16 years (2008 was quite the year, huh?), and are celebrating your 14th entrepreneuriversary. You still pinch yourself that you get to do this work: that it’s your family’s main source of income, that the women you have the privilege of working with are still kick-ass and kind, that the offers you’ve created are helping creative women believe that they can make a grown-up living doing what they love. You continue to be authentic to your who you are and what you stand for – and effectively share that through your business – and you’ve reaped the rewards.
I know you want to know whether your long-terms business dreams have come true. Did you get your What-Color-Is-Your-Parachute?-for-creative-women-who-wanna-be-business-owners book published? Are you speaking a few times a year at events, conferences, schools and companies? Did you create a curriculum for middle schools, high schools and/or colleges that answers the What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up? question better than career assessment tests or outdated advice from guidance counselors can? Is your business holding steady at the $250K mark?
Don’t hate me, but I don’t want to give away the farm. I don’t think it’ll be helpful to tell you now whether your Big Scary Dreams have come true. But what I can say is this: If you Let Go and Follow Your Flow – while giving yourself the whitespace you need along the way to not feel overwhelmed, anxious and stressed – then you can trust that you get exactly what you need. When you’re kind, soft, and gentle to yourself and others you’re always in your sweet spot.
Wanna know the best part of 2024, though? You’re still here. So all those fears you have of the cancer coming back? Knock it off, because you’re fine.
P.S. OK, I can’t help myself: the book? That so happened. Get to work.